Thursday, December 16, 2010

The Foundations of Communication: Small-Talk and Um

Charlie has long shown himself to be a good talker. He knows his audience, whether his parents, siblings, distant relatives, or friends. He has linked all of these individuals to events, so when he sees coffee, he says "Daddy," and when he sees a Nintendo DSi, he says "Brandon." His vocabulary is splendid. His enunciation is impressive. He applies different tones of voice to different situations. He even has topic-specific body language. So, he seems to be doing great when it comes to learning how to talk with others.

Lately I've noticed two parts of conversation that he has learned as well, and they are not things it ever dawned on me that someone would develop so early. One is small talk. It's amazing that when I first see him when coming home from work and he runs up to me, he starts listing off stuff that he sees around him: "Football. Juice." Othertimes, he'll just list off the words he hears the most. "Daddy, Mommy, Brandon, Dija, Ba-Ba..." He doesn't actually have anything to say here, but he wants some attention, and he is getting it by speaking. Not having any prepared notes and being untrained in impromptu speeches, he instead makes use of the inspiration around him.

Once he is in a real conversation, I have also noticed that he has started to say "Um." So young? Amazing. And it's not that verbal tick most adults have when they are on the spot talking, filling in gaps with not only Ums, but Errs, Wells, Actuallys, Whatnots, and whatnot that come out because we are blabbing and don't want to lose our audience. He is actually using the Um to take a break to formulate his thought, to get the right word, to say what he means.

He's only two and a half.

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